HOW TO PREVENT HAVING SEX
There is no religion that goes against SEX only men do so and it all's right to participate but it should be regulated to giving it the place it should be.
Sex is a basic part of human existence, but it has its place. While many people are flippant about having sex, others are very particular, as they should be. In fact, there are times when you don’t want to have sex at all—and that's ok! Here are some ways to avoid being pressured to have sex, whether you’ve told the other person your decision to abstain from sex or not.
A man would simply sit down with her and talk about it. When he learns that this is very important to her, he would simply accept that he has to make some decisions. He first has to ask himself what he expects out of the relationship. Does he love her? Does he want a lasting relationship with her, or is he “just kickin it?” If he loves her and wants a lasting relationship with her, then it shouldn’t be too hard to wait for a little while. If he isn’t sure, then he has to figure that out.
And from HIS point of view, it could be said, “If she loves me she will continue to have sex with whether or not we’re married. Her not doing so means she loves the idea of marriage more than she loves me.”
Excercise: Obviously, exercising is healthy itself, but it also does a few specific things that help damper sexual preoccupations. Exercise can be engrossing and distracting, and when you work out hard enough, other distractions have a tendency of receding into the background. Exercise provides a natural endorphin rush. Endorphins provide a generally good feeling, and help relieve depression. During sex, endorphins are also released, along with other chemicals like the hormone oxytocin. Ergo, exercise can be a good substitute for sexual activity.
Tell a trusted friend who can handle and give a trusted advice about your problem. As terrifying as this may sound, it is one of the most powerful and effective approaches. If you are lucky enough to know someone who is not judgmental and will understand and appreciate your goal, talk to them about how you are doing. Having a frank conversation when you feel compelled to think or act in ways you would rather not can be a reassuring source on ongoing support.
No one is obligated to have sex with any other person, and this idea of entitlement to sex is an effect of a strong rape culture. You have every right to adhere to your religion in any way you see fits. But even if you are married you are entitled to decide whether to have sex or not to some degree but your spouse should be considered if you are married. If a spouse does not want to have sex, they shouldn’t be obligated to or forced to (which is what entitlement would imply).
Do not stay in the dark or lonely place with your boyfriend or girlfriend it is not safe because when it comes to sex anybody is vulnerable and you might have done it before you realize anything at all.
Thanks for reading us. Please come for more.
There is no religion that goes against SEX only men do so and it all's right to participate but it should be regulated to giving it the place it should be.
Sex is a basic part of human existence, but it has its place. While many people are flippant about having sex, others are very particular, as they should be. In fact, there are times when you don’t want to have sex at all—and that's ok! Here are some ways to avoid being pressured to have sex, whether you’ve told the other person your decision to abstain from sex or not.
A man would simply sit down with her and talk about it. When he learns that this is very important to her, he would simply accept that he has to make some decisions. He first has to ask himself what he expects out of the relationship. Does he love her? Does he want a lasting relationship with her, or is he “just kickin it?” If he loves her and wants a lasting relationship with her, then it shouldn’t be too hard to wait for a little while. If he isn’t sure, then he has to figure that out.
And from HIS point of view, it could be said, “If she loves me she will continue to have sex with whether or not we’re married. Her not doing so means she loves the idea of marriage more than she loves me.”
Excercise: Obviously, exercising is healthy itself, but it also does a few specific things that help damper sexual preoccupations. Exercise can be engrossing and distracting, and when you work out hard enough, other distractions have a tendency of receding into the background. Exercise provides a natural endorphin rush. Endorphins provide a generally good feeling, and help relieve depression. During sex, endorphins are also released, along with other chemicals like the hormone oxytocin. Ergo, exercise can be a good substitute for sexual activity.
Tell a trusted friend who can handle and give a trusted advice about your problem. As terrifying as this may sound, it is one of the most powerful and effective approaches. If you are lucky enough to know someone who is not judgmental and will understand and appreciate your goal, talk to them about how you are doing. Having a frank conversation when you feel compelled to think or act in ways you would rather not can be a reassuring source on ongoing support.
No one is obligated to have sex with any other person, and this idea of entitlement to sex is an effect of a strong rape culture. You have every right to adhere to your religion in any way you see fits. But even if you are married you are entitled to decide whether to have sex or not to some degree but your spouse should be considered if you are married. If a spouse does not want to have sex, they shouldn’t be obligated to or forced to (which is what entitlement would imply).
Do not stay in the dark or lonely place with your boyfriend or girlfriend it is not safe because when it comes to sex anybody is vulnerable and you might have done it before you realize anything at all.
Thanks for reading us. Please come for more.
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